All thanks to those weird expectations and peculiar ideas that the society has about gender discrimination and rights, a lot of relationships don’t bloom well when the wife brings home more bacon. It actually doesn’t matter whether we live in a developed country or we belong to a well-educated family, gender discrimination maintains its inertia in all aspects. Even our own shadow leaves us when it’s dawn but unfortunately, discrimination and its consequences won’t let us live in peace. Sadly, women are often trapped and strangled into the clasps of such scenarios. A bunch of people will always be there to question upon every single thing women do. No matter what, she is to be held accountable for everything.
Earlier discrimination was persistent about women and girls’ education, which heinously presumed that a girl cannot be equally or furthermore educated than a boy. People used to believe that women should be housewives and all she is entitled to do is cook and do household chores properly. Despite the fact that we belong to the 21st century, where women have earned name, fame and are moving ahead with bravery in every sector; they lack equality in status compared to men. Women are said to be the better halves of their husbands, whereas in reality they are first-handedly considered as the ‘less than’ significant other. Although, men and women are more like two sides of a coin and they contribute together for their family and this society, women are still looked down with biases even in their own family. Husbands and wives are said to be life partners, then what’s wrong if they have partnered together to provide for the needs of their home and family? What’s the harm if she wants to support her husband through thick and thin?
The male dominated society has discriminated against women and made them socially disadvantaged. Women are always considered as subordinate and inferior to their husbands, even if they are more intelligent, receive greater pay, or have a higher status in a job. If a woman starts to earn more than her man, at some point the husband starts to feel insecure and he feels like he is losing his identity the breadwinner. At times, his manly ego forces him to come up with excuses as to why his wife should stay at home and focus on their married life rather than earning. The very first obvious reasons he might bring about are their children and his parents. Perhaps, he will not like the idea of keeping their child in a day care center for a couple of hours or even with their grandparents since they are aged now.
Basically, the couple ends up fighting with each passing day and these silly issues turn out to be bigger which unfortunately leads to divorce at times. Nearly one third of working women nationwide now, out-earns their husbands and also manages her house in a decent way. Redistributing roles and responsibilities in a family is not as simple as saying, “you take out the garbage, and I’ll do the dish.” It’s very rare that men help their better halves in doing household chores especially in Asian countries. Even if she manages everything perfectly yet, she’s going to be taunted.
It’s not only about gender discrimination, the idea that women dislike being financially dependent on men is a myth. After all these years of equality campaign and advances for women in the workplace , most of them still find it really hard to admit that they want to be a housewife more than they want to be successful in their career on their own.
Some academic research suggests that couples are more likely to split up and less likely to marry when the husband earns less. Around 38% of wives earn more than their husbands, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. 64 percent said they wish to find a husband who brings home a larger pay packet than they do. And 69 per cent said, if money was not an issue then they would choose to stay at home to look after their children. They think that in order to have a marriage built which will last till the end; finances play a huge role in sustainability.
The financial gender equilibrium within marriage seems to be altering at a faster pace than society’s attitude on successful women. Couples who put love ahead of money may be part of a new generation that is breaking away from outdated tropes about who should be the breadwinner. However, concepts on what helps a couple stay together vary. It’s all about the understanding between them and how well they manage things accordingly by being united. It doesn’t matter who earns more if they face the challenges life throws at them together. Blaming the society or each other is not a solution of any problem. There’s a saying, ‘’ Money cannot buy happiness“ in one sense it’s true and on the contradictory, it’s not. One can live a lavish life and have fun with the help of money all the while being unhappy about the turmoil that their married life maybe experiencing. What one can do to avoid such mishaps in their life is to learn. Mixing our personal life with the professional life is one of the worst things we can ever do. It’s even better if an individual and their partner work in different corporate sectors. So that later on, getting promotion doesn’t become the issue of their next argument. It’s when they’re willing to compromise and make sacrifices for someone will they start to feel true love beginning.